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Different Deep Fears Shape Approaches
- Women often perceive unknown men as potential physical threats on a deep, unconscious level.
- Men carry a different deep fear: sexual humiliation and loss of status, which shapes their approach.
Objectification Undercuts Effectiveness
- Treating a woman as only a body reduces your ability to perspective-take and add value to her experience.
- Objectification makes you less effective at achieving the mating outcomes you say you want.
Appreciate Smartly: Face, Eye Contact, Choice
- When appreciating a woman's appearance, shift gaze to her face and make genuine eye contact and smile.
- Praise choices she controls (e.g., "great dress") rather than body parts to appear socially intelligent.