Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Intimacy in Midlife

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Oct 21, 2025
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a PhD in counseling psychology, shares insights specifically for women in midlife. She discusses how hormonal changes can reignite desire and the importance of expressing needs without pressure. Jennifer emphasizes reframing pleasure as a virtue, building intimacy through self-awareness, and understanding men's loneliness beyond sexual needs. Her practical advice encourages women to take charge of their pleasure, fostering deeper connections in their marriages.
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ADVICE

Start With A Clear, Nonpressuring Request

  • Tell your spouse you want a better sexual and intimate relationship without demanding immediate sex.
  • Start conversations about what worked, what didn't, and what you want going forward.
INSIGHT

Sex Is Often Framed As Service

  • Women often collude in meanings that frame sex as service rather than mutual pleasure.
  • Recognizing erotic needs as valid helps women reclaim pleasure and invite better reciprocity.
ADVICE

Enjoy Arousal Without Pressure

  • Cultivate sexual energy together without pressuring immediate gratification.
  • Enjoy arousal and sensuous connection as adult play to naturally increase mutual desire.
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