TED Radio Hour

Who counts as a significant other?

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Dec 26, 2025
Raina Cohen, a journalist and NPR producer, explores intense platonic friendships and how they often mirror soulmate connections. Stephanie Yates-Anyabwile, a marriage and family therapist, challenges traditional relationship norms and discusses innovative strategies like living apart to strengthen bonds. Bella DePaulo, a social psychologist, advocates for the 'single at heart' lifestyle, emphasizing the fulfillment found in solitude and single life. Together, they delve into rethinking who truly counts as a significant other, from friends to pets.
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ANECDOTE

Friends Stepping Into Family Roles

  • Cohen shares stories: legally recognized platonic co-parents and friends who cared for dying partners like family.
  • She highlights grief after losing a soulmate friend and the lack of societal recognition for that loss.
ADVICE

Build Chosen Households

  • Raina Cohen suggests building chosen households with friends to share caregiving and daily life.
  • She encourages permission to share life with spouses, siblings, or a house full of friends.
INSIGHT

Marriage As The Default Life Script

  • Stephanie R. Yates-Anyabwile notes societal expectation treats monogamous partnership as life's goal.
  • She frames finding "the one" and building a conventional life as the dominant cultural script.
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