The mindbodygreen Podcast 461: Relationship mistakes, conversation starters & the science of make-up sex | John Gottman, Ph.D. & Julie Gottman, Ph.D.
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Dec 19, 2022 
Renowned psychologists and co-founders of the Gottman Institute, Julie Gottman, Ph.D. and John Gottman, Ph.D., discuss relationship challenges during the pandemic, the power of touch for well-being, the importance of compliments, meaningful conversations, and open-ended questions in relationships, as well as the impact of family trauma and the role of sex in a relationship.
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Touch Is A Basic Survival Need
- Touch is as essential to human well-being as food, water, and exercise.
- Even small, nonsexual touches release oxytocin and strengthen bonds.
Always Reply To Small Bids
- Notice and respond to your partner's small bids for connection throughout the day.
- Turning toward tiny bids (a second-long response) builds friendship, passion, and smoother conflict resolution.
Unhappy Couples Miss Half The Positives
- Unhappy couples stop noticing positive moments; they miss about half of them.
- Building a habit of noticing and thanking creates a strong culture of appreciation.