This Is How You Think - Mindset Habits for Personal Growth Masking to Belong: People Don’t Know the Real You Because You Won’t Let Them
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Masking and people-pleasing often start as survival strategies in childhood, but over time they become the only version of you that people ever see. I break down how I used intelligence and helpfulness to earn belonging for decades without realizing it, and why that kept people from actually connecting with me.
Topics covered in this episode:
- The Golden Buddha story and why we cover ourselves up to feel safe
- How I discovered that being "the smart one" was my version of masking
- Why leading with intelligence, humor, or helpfulness earns you a spot but not a real connection
- The family messages that taught me to perform instead of show up as myself
- When protective armor turns into a prison
- What I'm still working through underneath my own mask
- How to start figuring out what your mask is
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