The Wilde Way: Fertility Unfiltered 27. 6 Things I Wish I’d Known About Fertility at 38: Age Fear, Low AMH & IVF
If you’re on a fertility journey and feeling pressure around age, time, low AMH, or the sense that you need to “figure this out now,” this episode is for you.
In this solo episode, I share the six things I wish I’d known about fertility when I was 38 and deeply afraid I was running out of time. Now at 43, I reflect on how age fear quietly drives urgency, rushed decisions, and burnout — especially when IVF enters the conversation.
This episode is not anti-IVF. I’ve done IVF. It gave me my son. But it is a truth-telling conversation about timing, nervous system safety, advocacy, and why slowing down can sometimes be the most powerful move forward.
In this episode, we explore:
• Why feeling urgent doesn’t mean time is actually running out
• How age fear and AMH anxiety compress decision-making
• IVF as a powerful tool — not a race you have to enter immediately
• Why fertility doesn’t live in your ovaries alone
• The importance of advocating for your body and asking better questions
• Why calm is a biological requirement for fertility
• How simplifying your approach can often move the needle more than doing everything at once
Mentioned in this episode:
🎧 Inside IVF with Emma the Embryologist
https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/14-inside-ivf-with-emma-the-embryologist-myths/id1825750893?i=1000731837986
Work with me (limited availability):
I’ve opened just two spots for one-on-one fertility coaching — the only spots I’m opening right now, and they will fill quickly.
This is for women who want personalised preconception support, deeper investigative work, and nervous system regulation alongside physical root-cause healing.
👉 Book a Preconception Clarity Call
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If now isn’t your time, take what landed from this episode and leave the rest. You’re allowed to move through this journey with support, not pressure.
If you’re craving a little extra support, my link in bio is full of free resources to get you started — including my IVF Prep Checklist and my Two-Week Wait Support Kit to help you feel a little more grounded during that in-between.
You can also book a free 30-minute call with me if you want to chat through your fertility journey and what your next steps could look like.
And I’m currently creating something really special… BLYOOM — a supportive app experience designed specifically for women on the trying-to-conceive journey, with nervous system tools to hold you through the real, everyday moments… the two-week wait, negative tests, pregnancy announcements, all of it.
If that feels like something you need right now, you can join the waitlist here so you’re the first to know when it’s live 🤍
And if you want more, come hang out with me on Instagram @abi.wilde — it’s where I share lots of free tips, tools, and fertility vibes for whole-body healing.
Until next time, mama x