The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby Remembering our daughter, the due date & our first marriage conference
Mar 4, 2026
They talk about approaching a meaningful due date and how they carry the memory of their daughter, Emerson Nicole. They discuss grieving publicly and how keepsakes, art, and community support have helped. They also recap a marriage conference’s communication and budgeting takeaways, and share family moments like carnival fun and kids’ activities.
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Date Night Fell On Their Daughter's C-Section Day
- Abby and Matt used the day of their daughter's planned C-section to take a date and processed grief together publicly afterward.
- They unexpectedly watched Wuthering Heights, which contained a traumatic pregnancy-loss scene that worsened Abby's emotional state that weekend.
Naming Helped Make Emerson Real
- Abby realized keeping her daughter's name private extended a separate 'still pregnant' life and releasing it felt like an important step in grieving.
- Naming her Emerson Nicole connected family history—shared middle name with a stillborn aunt and their nurse's name Nicole.
Use Tangible Memorials The Whole Family Can Hold
- Create tangible memorials and rituals to remember a lost baby so the whole family can participate.
- They use a labeled bunny, a painting of rainbows/mountains, and plan meaningful visits to a significant location.
