363: Anal Sex for Beginners with Dr. Evan Goldstein
Better Sex
Lube Recommendations and Risks
Dr. Evan warns against spit and oil, recommends silicone-based lube, and explains microbiome impacts of water-based lubes.
In this episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist, Jessa Zimmerman, interviews Dr. Evan Goldstein, an expert in anal sexual wellness and author of 'Butt Seriously.' Dr. Goldstein discusses the fundamentals of anal sex for beginners, focusing on key aspects such as muscle relaxation, preparation, and safety. They delve into common myths around anal sex, the anatomical considerations, and the importance of using the right products for a pleasurable experience. The conversation also explores the performance of safe hygiene practices, effective communication with partners, and techniques to mitigate potential issues. Dr. Goldstein emphasizes the importance of proper education and preparation to enhance the anal sex experience, debunking societal taboos and misconceptions.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
00:48 Exciting Topic: Anal Sex for Beginners
01:32 Meet Dr. Evan Goldstein
02:50 The Birth of Bespoke Surgical
03:46 Common Anal Issues and Myths
06:40 Anal Play for All Genders
08:21 Understanding Anal Anatomy
14:01 The Future Method and Anal Dilating Kit
20:45 The Importance of Uniformity in Vaginal Dilators
21:33 Jessa's Quick Break: How to Get Help
22:01 Misconceptions About Anal Preparation
22:35 Solo Anal Play: Learning Your Body
23:20 Incorporating Dilators into Sex Play
24:17 Positions for Anal Success
26:56 Choosing the Right Lube for Anal Sex
29:06 Gut Health and Anal Play
31:48 Douching: Best Practices and Misconceptions
34:59 Post-Play Hygiene Tips
36:36 Final Thoughts and Resources
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Bio:
Dr. Evan Goldstein is the leading anal health expert in the United States, founder of Future Method, and one of the few surgeons in the world whose practice, Bespoke Surgical, is dedicated to treating and restoring the human butt. He holds a perennial spot on the list of top doctors for the New York metro area and Crain’s New York Business listed him as one of their notable LGBTQ+ leaders and executives. He has been featured in national publications including GQ, Well+Good, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, New York Magazine, Forbes, Fast Company, Out, and Shape; is a popular podcast guest; and in demand as a speaker for both medical and sex-positive industries. His first book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In Between published in May 2024.
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