Grieving the Loss of What You Wanted

Pain is inevitable, but suffering does not have to be.

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Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist and general provider of wisdom, is here to talk about radical acceptance.

Drawing inspiration from our holy grail episode with Gina Chick, Dr Em deep dives radical acceptance; what is it, how do we cultivate it, and why is it important to us as human beings?

According to Dr Em, radical acceptance is not about liking or accepting (insert profanity here) situations or circumstances, or denying an experience, but rather, accepting the pain inside of us to avoid the reaction of suffering.

Instead of feeling better, it’s about finding a better way of feeling.

For Hugh, the concept of radical acceptance really hits close to home, and he reflects on how it has changed his life insurmountably.

Dr Emily, we love ya, and we missed ya.

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0:00 – Getting the Gina Chick zoomies
6:23 – The Radical Acceptance origin story
14:20 – Change how you relate
21:19 – On a global scale
27:25 – An Unwanted Guest
34:42 – The third option
40:38 – Grieving the loss of what you wanted
45:28 – Living proof ft. Hugh
53:18 – Anxious about my anxiety
1:03:26 – Main character moment
1:10:17 – Putting it in practice

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

• Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://bit.ly/4b9nAVG

📖 Things to read

• Unstuck, by Dr Emily Musgrove - https://bit.ly/4o8JFay
• The Happiness Trap, by Russ Harris - https://bit.ly/4kRn3Lq
• The Guest House, by Rumi - https://bit.ly/4kXhaMS

💻Things to check out

• Tara Brach - RAIN meditation - https://bit.ly/3MNou0M
• Alfred Adler - Three Sided Column - https://bit.ly/3P1gSbJ
• Jill Bolte Taylor - 90 second shelf life of emotions - https://bit.ly/4aV5rtL

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