Three-Part Structure of the Episode

On March 11, 2010 I was lying on the bathroom floor at my house. I had been lying there for an hour, because I couldn’t stand up. I couldn't keep anything down for two days and I was severely dehydrated and dizzy. 

I said to my wife, “I need you to take me to the emergency room.”

After a lot of tests, I was told that I had four ulcers in the lining of my stomach and esophagus. Then the ER doctor asked me, "Do you have a stressful job?"

My job as a Private School Leader had finally put me in the hospital.

I have experienced: 

• My daughter saying, “Dad, when do we get to see you instead of the back of your laptop?”
• My wife saying, “I feel like you are married to the school instead of me.”
• Feeling guilty and lonely
• Feeling stress and anxiety
• Feeling overwhelmed and exhausted

I know how it feels to be in survival mode.

I thought that I knew how to make it better:

• Just outwork the problem.
• Just come in earlier, stay later, work weeknights and weekends. 
• Just put your head down and work harder.
• But that didn't get me out of survival mode. It just made things worse.
• Then my self-talk was: “What's wrong with me? I must be weak.”

I don’t want YOU to stay stuck in survival mode any longer. I know that you don’t want to be there and you definitely don’t want to stay there. On today’s episode of The Private School Leader Podcast, I am going to give you Your Survival Mode Escape Plan.

I hope that you will listen to the podcast for your weekly dose of motivation, inspiration and PD. Thanks so much for listening and thanks for making a difference!

Mark Minkus

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