Reframing Failure and Social Pain

Confidence coach & behavioral researcher, Dr. Shadé Zahrai, reveals 4 mindset shifts to stop self-doubt, build confidence, and own any room!

Why do some women walk in and get taken seriously instantly, while others overthink every move, over-apologise, and shrink themselves at work? 

Maggie and Dr. Shadé unpack the hidden habits holding ambitious women back, the psychology behind “Lucky Girl Syndrome,” and why high-achieving women still struggle with self-worth. From speaking with authority to asking for more at work, this conversation is a masterclass in becoming the woman who stops second-guessing herself and starts being seen, heard, and respected!

Timestamps:

00:00:00 Intro

00:01:55 What a Confidence Expert Does

00:03:56 The Truth About Self-Doubt

00:09:37 The 4 Traits Shaping Self-Worth

00:12:15 Change Your Personality in 6 Weeks

00:13:44 Is Personality Born or Built?

00:16:08 4 Signs You Don’t Accept Yourself

00:19:12 Why Successful People Feel Inadequate

00:21:43 Why Failure Feels Personal

00:23:31 Rewire Your Fear of Failure

00:25:37 The Michael Phelps Mindset Trick

00:28:22 The 3-Step Failure Recovery Framework

00:30:50 Why High Achievers Fear Failure

00:33:01 A Simple Tool for Pressure

00:34:35 The Trait That Builds Confidence

00:36:50 Why Confidence Follows Action

00:38:19 The “Impossible Problem” Story

00:40:27 Ad Break

00:41:30 Why “Delusion” Can Build Success

00:45:35 Rejection Therapy Explained

00:47:17 The Third Trait: Taking Control

00:49:02 Why You Feel Stuck

00:52:40 Stop Saying “You Should”

00:54:14 What To Say Instead

00:56:37 How To Ask For A Raise

00:57:28 How To Stop Being Ignored

01:00:31 Stop Over-Apologising

01:02:28 2 Ways To Control Emotion

01:04:01 Quick Confidence Tricks

01:08:42 How To Walk In Confidently

01:10:55 Nail Your Promotion Conversation

01:16:18 Women in Male-Dominated Workplaces

01:18:57 Why Women Undermine Women

01:26:29 Why One Size Doesn’t Work

01:28:10 You Can’t Please Everyone

01:29:13 Where To Find The Book

01:29:46 Last Thing On Your Credit Card?

01:29:55 Most Expensive Card Purchase?

01:30:12 Most Confident Person You’ve Met?

01:30:34 Books Or Podcasts?

01:30:38 Where Inspiration Comes From

01:31:18 This Season Of Life

01:32:09 Her HSR Love Note

01:32:40 Where To Find Shadé

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Dr. Shadé Zahrai, is globally recognized behavioral researcher, scholar-practitioner, and award-winning peak performance educator to Fortune 100s. An ex-Lawyer armed with a background in psychology, an MBA, and a PhD in organizational behavior, she’s one of the leading voices on confidence and performance, and her new bestselling book, Big Trust: Rewire Self-Doubt, Find Your Confidence, Fuel Success, is transforming the lives of tens of thousands of people all over the world. 

Latest Book, Big Trust:  https://www.amazon.com/Big-Trust-Self-Doubt-Confidence-Success/dp/0063378159/

Follow Dr. Shadé Zahrai www.instagram.com/shadezahrai

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