Boundaries, Updating Beliefs, and No Need to Be Right

Tom discusses intellectual humility, updating views, and how they negotiate disagreements without defensiveness.

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To my Ladies,

Today’s episode was such a difficult one for me, but I felt called to record it because these issues are tearing soooooo many couples and families apart, and it's time we talk about it!

This is me being really extremely vulnerable as I have a conversation with my husband about something that’s been sitting heavy for a long time.

I run a female empowerment channel. I love this show. I love you guys. I’m here to encourage women to be freaking badass. And yet… my husband voted for Trump. A man I despise!

And when that came out publicly? The backlash was real. And I’ve been navigating our relationship, our differences, and how the hell I even talk about this… for almost a year.

So today, I’m bringing my hubby on because we’re finally having the conversation no one wants to have. The conversation people are too afraid to touch.

I’ve had so many women come to me quietly like, “Lisa, don’t tell anyone, but…” and then it’s either their partner voted for Trump and they’re terrified of the backlash, or they voted for Trump themselves and feel like they have to stay silent.

And when that many people feel like they have to hide? Something is wrong!!! Relationships can’t thrive when you’re walking on eggshells and pretending.

So I wanted to be real. I wanted to be honest. And I wanted to show you what it looks like to love someone deeply and still have differences… politics, religion, all of it. I’m Greek Orthodox, he’s atheist. We’ve navigated this for 25 years.

It hasn’t always been easy… but it’s been doable. And here’s the key: we’ve never lost respect for each other and we’ve never abandoned ourselves!

I don’t expect everyone to “love” this episode. I get it. Everyone has their opinions.

But this isn’t about politics.

This is about how you stay connected when you don’t agree. How you actually hear your partner. How you handle different views without trying to tear each other down.

Because let me be really real, I love my husband more than anything on this planet and his political and religious beliefs hasn't and won't ever change that.

So if you’re that person, if you want to understand your partner and navigate differences while still being incredibly happy and solid, please listen with open ears, open eyes, and an open mind.

Because if we can learn to have honest conversations with grace, love, respect and without trying to destroy each other?

Oh my God… I truly believe we can build a different world. And it all starts with being brave….

Much Love,

Lisa B

SHOWNOTES

Trump, feminism, and the fallout – surviving public backlash

The “North Star” in marriage vs. politics

Economic collapse, history lessons & ugly truths

Abortion – my story, my shame, and working through pain together

Globalization, jobs, and why immigration is so damn messy

What if Trump “turned” on me? – loyalty, fear, and family first

Can you be a Women’s advocate AND married to someone with opposite views?