If I'm Too Much, Find Less

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What if the real dating glow-up isn’t playing hard to get, landing a rich partner, or mastering “feminine energy”… but learning how to regulate your nervous system, set clean boundaries, and stop shrinking yourself to be chosen?

In today's relationship-focused episode, Jean and Cherie sit down with one of the internet’s most influential dating voices, Sabrina Zohar (The Sabrina Zohar Show), to break down the psychology behind modern love. From “If I’m too much, go find less” to the question we’re all secretly asking - "Can ambitious women actually find love?" - this episode dives into what advice is worth keeping… and what might be keeping you stuck.

Tune in as they cover:

💥What “self-regulation” actually means

💥 The difference between boundaries and ultimatums

💥 Platonic vs Romantic boundaries 

💥 Early signs you’re shrinking yourself in dating

💥 Popular online "dating gurus" & what they're really saying

Whether you’re anxious, avoidant, healing, thriving, career-obsessed, freshly divorced, or wondering if you’re “too much”… this episode will challenge the stories you’ve absorbed about love and teach you how to choose yourself rather than strive to be 'chosen' first.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:51 - Introducing Sabrina Zohar 

2:20 - Defining self-regulation 

5:30 - How to actually self-regulate

9:30 - Pattern recognition in trauma triggers

12:12 - Discussing the fear responses 

13:40: How to co-regulate with a partner 

18:55: Exploring boundaries: Why they’re important and how to set them

21:49: The reason boundaries are so uncomfortable 

22:58: Setting boundaries in platonic friendships

26:50: Allowing yourself to sit with emotions 

32:39: Cherie’s friendship break-up 

36:20: “If I’m too much… find less” - how not to shrink yourself

43:45: Dating with detachment (from the outcome)

44:05: How to be in your growth stage

48:20: Analyzing “dating gurus” online 

54:48: Conclusion and lasting thoughts

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