Shame and its hidden effects

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I just turned 50 this week, and man, that’s a big deal for me! I’m feeling a lot of gratitude for my life, especially considering I’ve been in a wheelchair for over 30 years. In this episode, I dive into what it really means to become whole. We talk about how embracing all parts of ourselves—good, bad, and everything in between—can totally change how we live and love. Plus, I share how reflecting on my life and the people I’ve lost has shaped my views on legacy and connection. So, let’s explore how we can integrate all those messy feelings to create a life we love!

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Turning 50 is a milestone that brings a lot of reflections. I just celebrated this birthday, and it’s wild to think of all the years I’ve lived, especially considering I’ve been in a wheelchair since I was 18. There were times I thought I wouldn’t make it to this age, but here I am, feeling grateful for every moment. I spent my birthday evening at a carol singing event at a crematorium, which sounds heavy, but it turned into a beautiful celebration of life and a reminder of the legacy we leave behind. I’ve lost many friends along the way, and it’s a poignant reminder that every moment counts. In this podcast, I want to discuss the importance of reflecting on our lives and the legacies we create.

The conversation about legacy is intertwined with our journey of becoming whole. I’ve struggled with feelings of shame related to my disability for years, and it held me back from asking for help and embracing my life fully. This episode is about recognizing those feelings and integrating them into our lives rather than pushing them away. Becoming whole is about accepting all parts of ourselves, the good and the bad. When we acknowledge our struggles, we can learn to move forward and grow. It’s about understanding that it’s okay to feel vulnerable and that asking for help is a strength, not a weakness.

As I reflect on my experiences, I encourage listeners to think about their own journeys and how they can embrace their true selves. We often look for others to complete us, but true wholeness comes from within. This episode is a call to action to integrate all our experiences and emotions into a coherent self. Let’s support each other in this journey, acknowledging our past while looking forward to the future, and celebrating the lives we’ve lived and the legacies we’re building.

Takeaways:

• Turning 50 is a milestone, and I celebrate it because I've made it this far.
• Having been paralyzed since I was 18, I never thought I would reach 50 years old.
• Reflection on life and loss happens on birthdays, especially when attending funerals.
• Becoming whole means embracing all parts of ourselves, even the uncomfortable ones.
• Integrating our feelings leads to better relationships and a greater appreciation for life.
• It's essential to listen to the quiet voices within us and not rely on others.