Do You Talk About Me When I'm Gone?

Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco, Dave Burd, and Kristin Batalucco for a first-of-its-kind conversation - three best friends building something together in real time. They talk about what that really looks like: how friendship changes when work gets involved, how marriage fits into ambition, where insecurity still shows up, and how messy it can be to create with people you genuinely love. Dave and Kristin tell the story of meeting at a bowling alley and how they almost got in their own way at the beginning. Benny opens up about what it was like to chase success for years and what shifted when he realized it wasn’t giving him what he thought it would. It’s funny, and honest, and gives you a real sense of who they are with each other, not just as collaborators, but as friends figuring life out together.

With Jay's guidance they open up about commitment anxiety, the courage it takes to be emotionally direct, and the power of choosing your partner not playing games, not waiting to be chosen, but stepping forward with clarity. Kristen shares what it means to battle self-doubt while stepping into the public eye. Dave opens up about perfectionism and the tension between ambition and contentment. Benny reflects on how success once held him in a chokehold and how love reshaped his priorities. Together, they reveal that the healthiest relationships aren’t built on avoiding conflict, but on being able to argue passionately and return to love just as quickly.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love

How to Stop Playing Dating Games

How to Turn Conflict Into Deeper Connection

How to Support Your Partner’s Ambition Without Competing

How to Work With Friends Without Ruining the Friendship

How to Fall in Love With New Versions of Your Partner

The strongest connections aren’t built by people who never argue, they’re built by people who know how to come back to each other after they do. Keep choosing openness. Keep choosing courage. Keep choosing each other. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:03 How Their Friendship Began

07:05 Dave and Kristin’s Love Story

11:37 From Dating to Marriage

18:39 When Friendship Grows With Marriage

20:19 Getting Married a Month Apart

28:05 Loving Every Version of Each Other

30:35 Launching a Show Together

35:12 The Loneliness Epidemic 

39:07 Working With Family and Friends

42:13 How They Make Big Decisions

45:27 Pre-Show Nerves and Bathroom Confessions

48:18 Do They Believe in Astrology?

51:10 Friends Don’t Keep Secrets

01:13:28 Separating Work From Your Relationship

01:20:00 Do You Talk About Me When I Leave the Room?

01:23:37 If I Died, Would You Still Hang Out?

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