How to Motivate Our Kids Without Nagging Them! (Encore)
Parenting in the Screen Age - The Screenagers Podcast
Intro
Delaney Ruston introduces the podcast, guest David Yeager, and the mentor mindset theme for motivating youth.
Dr. Delaney sits down with acclaimed developmental psychologist David Yeager, Ph.D., to discuss his groundbreaking book, 10 to 25: The Science of Motivating Young People.
Together, they delve into the transformative power of adopting a mentor mindset to simplify parenting — especially when tackling tech time challenges. Learn why combining high standards with high support is a game-changer, and uncover the key elements of "wise feedback" that make it so impactful, as shown across various studies.
This episode offers science-backed communication techniques on topics like respectful versus disrespectful language, validation, cooperative problem-solving, and more. Parents will walk away with practical strategies to approach screen time struggles with confidence and clarity.
Featured Expert
Books
The Science of Motivating Young People, by David Yeager
Belonging: The Science of Creating Connection and Bridging Divides, by Geoffrey L. Cohen
Research References
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Yeager, D. et al. Breaking the cycle of mistrust: Wise interventions to provide critical feedback across the racial divide. Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 143(2), 804–824, 2014.
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Dobson, K. et al. A Transparency Statement Improves Community-Police Interactions. Research Square (Research Square), 2022.
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Yeager, D. et al. A Transparency Statement Transforms Community-Police Interactions. Research Square (Research Square), 2022.
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Telzer, E. et al. Ventral striatum activation to prosocial rewards predicts longitudinal declines in adolescent risk taking. Developmental Cognitive Neuroscience, 3, 45–52, 2013.
Time Code
00:00 Introduction to the Screenagers Podcast
00:23 Meet David Yeager: Growth Mindset and Mentor Mindset
02:34 The Mentor's Dilemma: Balancing Criticism and Support
04:23 Wise Feedback: The Key to Motivating Youth
10:17 Transparency and Benevolent Intentions
12:45 Understanding Adolescent Motivation: Status and Respect
17:42 The Role of Testosterone in Adolescent Development
20:47 Respectful Communication: The Vegemite Experiment
24:15 Testosterone and Behavior
25:50 Parenting Challenges and Mentor Mindset
27:04 The Science of Nagging
29:25 Effective Communication with Teens
32:45 Collaborative Troubleshooting
34:41 Balancing Screen Time and Life Goals
36:53 The Enforcer vs. Mentor Mindset
41:30 Concluding Thoughts and Resources
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