Wife avoids intimacy after trauma

Five years of marriage, a baby, and a nagging hunch your wife might be pining for the other team. You're not mad, but now what? Welcome to Feedback Friday!

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On This Week's Feedback Friday:

• Your wife has always kept intimacy at a distance — and after years of patience, therapy, and one fateful episode of Arrested Development, you have a theory about why. Now you're wondering how to open a door that may not be yours to open.
• You immigrated from Brazil at five, survived a volatile household, and built yourself into someone grounded and self-aware. Your half-Brazilian sister, meanwhile, is cosplaying the culture you lived — and it's getting worse. You want to keep seeing your nephews. You're just not sure how to say the quiet part out loud.
• Your third-grade son is a bona fide prodigy who once red-lined a classmate's apology letter and handed it back. He's brilliant, empathetic — and a recurring bullying target. You know he's resilient. You're just not sure how much weight those little shoulders can carry before it starts to show.
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• You've got a genuinely good life — loving marriage, meaningful work, plant-based everything — but anxiety, anger, and a fear of loss have quietly been running the show. Your therapist is nudging you toward medication. You have real reservations. So: prescription pad, or dig into the lifestyle changes you've been putting off?
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