Public, private, and secret lives

Steve defines three life spheres and shows how hidden guilt and shame drive overcompensation.

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Most high performing executives will spend thousands optimizing their glucose levels, their sleep, and their body composition without ever stopping to ask why none of it makes them feel any better. The answer almost never lives in their labs and it almost never lives in their training program. It lives in the identity they built their entire career on top of, and the silent narrative driving every decision they make, that tells them their worth is only as good as their last result.

In this episode of Extend, I sat down with Steve Chua to explore the real root cause of executive burnout and why fixing your physiology without addressing your identity is like putting the right fuel into the wrong engine. Walk away from this conversation with a completely different understanding of what is actually driving your performance, your exhaustion, and what it is going to take to finally lead from a place of genuine strength instead of fear.

Steve Chua is an executive life and leadership coach with over 30 years of experience working with international leaders and organizations, and the founder of Steve Chua International and InsightOut, a coaching and consulting firm that empowers leaders to grow from the inside out. He operates from the conviction that healthy leaders create healthy companies, and his unique ability to help individuals resolve past conflicts, gain clarity in the present, and align their purpose and vision for the future, has made him one of the most sought after leadership coaches in the world.

Check out Dr. Shah's Sleep Optimization Workbook here: https://www.drshah.com/sleep

What's Discussed:

(3:24) Steve's personal story of comparing himself to his brothers, failing out of Oxford, and standing on the ledge of a building at his lowest point.
(5:57) The difference between living for value and living from value and why most executives are running on the wrong fuel.
(7:46) The three levels of identity work that create lasting change: self awareness, self management, and self leadership.
(11:34) Why picking up your phone first thing in the morning is the equivalent of eating a sugary breakfast for your brain.
(21:06) Why high achieving executives become the bottleneck of their own companies and what that reveals about their identity.
(37:49) The three things people lose when they burn out and why burnout is almost never just about working too hard.
(44:10) Why your 40s and 50s are not a midlife crisis but a shift from success to significance.
(51:30) The four life questions that when answered change everything about how you lead and how you live.