Most men don’t struggle with porn addiction because they lack discipline.

They struggle because they were never taught how to understand, regulate, or work with their emotions.

In this episode, I sit down with Rich Savoy—a coach, leader with Husband Material, and longtime mentor to men—to have one of the most honest conversations I’ve ever had about men, emotions, masculinity, and porn addiction recovery. We go beneath behavior and willpower and into the emotional and psychological roots that quietly keep men stuck in the cycle of shame, relapse, and self-criticism.

If you’ve tried to quit porn and found yourself asking “Why do I keep going back?”—this episode will give you clarity, relief, and a new path forward.

In this conversation, we explore:

Why porn addiction is rarely about sex—and almost always about emotional pain
How emotional suppression and shame fuel compulsive porn use in men
The difference between healthy masculinity and the “man box” most of us were raised in
Why willpower fails and emotional intelligence changes everything
How Internal Family Systems (IFS) and parts work explain porn addiction at the root
Why the part of you that turns to porn isn’t broken—and what it’s actually trying to protect

We also talk candidly about firefighter parts, shame cycles, emotional avoidance, and why many faith-based or performance-driven recovery approaches unintentionally make porn addiction worse.

This episode is for men who are tired of fighting themselves.

Men who want to overcome porn addiction without shame.

Men who are ready to reclaim masculinity through presence, emotional awareness, and self-leadership—not suppression.

If you’ve ever felt trapped between wanting to be strong and feeling deeply human at the same time, this conversation will resonate.

Resources mentioned:

Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy
No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard Schwartz
Altogether You by Jenna Riemersma
Boundaries for Your Soul by Kim Miller
Podcasts and teachings from Drew Boa and Husband Material

If this episode helped you, I’d encourage you to listen with an open mind—and share it with a man who needs to hear that he’s not broken, weak, or beyond hope.

Porn addiction recovery is possible.

And it starts with emotional healing.

Explore more of Rich's work at:https://www.husbandmaterial.com/

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