Understanding Projection and Enmeshment

A narcissistic friend ghosted you for years, then announced he's moving in — rent-free — while you and your fiancée plan a family. It's Feedback Friday!

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On This Week's Feedback Friday:

• If you prefer to board the Dooze Cruise without following the latest globetrotting adventures of Jordan and Gabe, skip ahead to around 21 minutes and 20 seconds.
• After two years of radio silence, your old friend from Germany has suddenly resurfaced — not to reconnect, but to announce he's moving into your apartment rent-free while you and your fiancée are trying to start a family. He didn't ask. He informed. How do you say "nein" without nuking the friendship?
• Your husband's sister has spent eight years intimidating you, belittling your anxiety, and treating conflict like a competitive sport — all while the family shrugs it off as "just how she is." Now politics have entered the chat, your husband finally drew a line, and she technically respected it. But what happens when she inevitably crosses it again?
• Your suburban neighbor "Chad" has turned the cul-de-sac into his personal fiefdom — following people to work, making veiled threats about firearms, and tormenting anyone who crosses his path. The HOA's useless, the cops seem indifferent, and you're stuck living next to a man with too much free time and zero chill. What's your move? [Thanks once again to attorney Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
• Recommendation of the Week: The Garmin inReach Mini — a satellite communicator that keeps you connected (and findable) even when you're completely off the grid, with SOS capability and optional search-and-rescue insurance.
• You and your partner are about to tie the knot, you're both carrying grief from losing parents, and you want to build the strongest possible foundation before saying "I do." You've heard all the usual advice — but what are the real, practical things couples should do before marriage that nobody talks about?
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