Loving your shadow and protector parts

Are your friendships or relationships feeling unaligned, unclear, or just plain confusing? Are you doing the work but still not experiencing the depth of connection you truly crave?

Right now, we’re in the midst of a collective relationship reckoning. In this potent episode, Jessica breaks down why manifesting love, intimacy, and deep friendship can feel harder than ever—and why it’s reflecting the exact parts of you that are ready to be healed.

If you're feeling romantically adrift, unseen, or wondering why your dream partner or soul-aligned friendships haven’t arrived yet, this episode will help unlock your next step forward. It’s not just about recognizing patterns; it’s about stepping into the version of you who can say no to what no longer fits, stay regulated in the face of fear, and source your worth from within.

With real expander stories and powerful energetic reframes, this episode is a must-listen if you’re ready to deepen your relationships from a place of embodied self-love.

Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast

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In this episode we talk about:

• Why many are feeling unseen or unfulfilled in their relationships right now
• How nervous system regulation is essential for intimacy and manifestation
• The mirror principle: using relationships as a tool for self-awareness
• The trap of pedestal-ing your manifestations
• The power of detaching from outcomes and falling in love with your life
• How fear and protector parts sabotage relational growth
• Releasing urgency and timelines around your manifestations
• Using the Return to Magic challenge to understand your relationship blueprint
• Learning to love and have compassion for your shadow
• Expander stories of partnership breakthroughs and healing
• Friendships as mirrors: projecting vs. authentic connection
• Building trust and communication in long-term relationships
   

Mentioned In the Episode: 

• Expanded x Ep. 373 - Elizabeth Endres on How to Choose Yourself and Become Magnetic
• Expanded x Ep. 365 - How to Manifest the Love You Desire with Jillian Turecki
• Expanded x Ep. 342 - Top Tips for Self-love, Manifesting Love, & a Deeper Connection with Your Partner
• Expanded x Ep. 300 Best in Class: Love - Romantic, Self-love, Friendship
• Expanded x Ep.  298 - Reimagining Love, Relationships & Breaking Codependency with Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath
• Expanded x Ep. 265 - People Pleasing, Dating Apps, & Manifesting Self Love – Unblocking: Love & Partnership
• Ep. 236 - Best in Class The Love/Money Connection
• Expanded x Ep. 197 - EXPLAINED Divorce and Relationships w. LMFT Janelle Nelson
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HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips 

(with exercises by Jessica Gill)

Available now!

The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM’s Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.

At TBM, we’ve redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.

Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you’ll learn how to:
 – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth
 – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work
 – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth
 – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true self

With over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you’re meant to live.

Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest.

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