The Core Fear of a Nine

Nines often take themselves out of scenarios and we want to get them back into those scenarios. The core fear of that lowest level of a nine would be other people might abandon. You can initiate something you're probably heading in the right direction. It's as simple as saying I don't like Alfredo maybe we shouldn't eat it every week. A person that loves you will not just abandon you when you tell them  that they are gonna leave you.