Using the three dots to build tension

Sexting sounds simple until you're actually staring at your phone, cursor blinking, wondering if what you're about to send is hot or just... weird. In this episode, I'm giving you the full breakdown on how to text dirty with confidence—because good sexting is really just foreplay with a keyboard.

I'm answering your questions about everything from how to build tension with something as small as three dots, to what to do when your partner wants to sext around the clock but you're just not feeling it. Plus, I'm sharing some of the hottest sexts the Sex With Emily community has ever received (you asked, you delivered, and wow).

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • The "past and future" technique that makes writing a sext way less intimidating—and way more effective

 • What to say when your long-distance partner's sexting pace doesn't match yours (hint: you're allowed to set your own rhythm)

 • How sexting can actually help you communicate desires that feel too awkward to say face-to-face

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:06 - The "past and future" rule for writing sexts

4:43 - How to use the three dots to build tension

5:34 - Nude photo tips: angles, lighting & confidence

7:35 - Protecting your nudes on Apple & Google

8:41 - The hottest sexts you've sent (community submissions)

10:18 - How to find your dirty talk voice

12:48 - Flirting with a coworker over Zoom & Slack

15:04 - Keeping sexts private when kids use your devices

16:08 - When your partner's masturbation habits change

19:16 - Mismatched sexting energy in long distance

22:35 - Rebuilding trust after infidelity

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