Consequences created necessary pain

Brandon Doerkse opens up about how he nearly lost his marriage due to emotional numbness, distraction, and addiction. For years, he struggled with avoidance, failing to recognize how his actions were eroding the trust and intimacy in his relationship. It wasn’t until he hit rock bottom that he realized the painful truth—his marriage was falling apart, and he was the one responsible.

Topics Covered:
👉 The impact of emotional disconnection in marriage
👉 How avoidance and addiction sabotage relationships
👉 Why men must take the first step in healing a broken relationship
👉 Understanding attachment styles and their effect on marriage
👉 The painful realization that led Brandon to transformation
👉 How honesty and accountability helped rebuild trust
👉 The importance of integration with God, family, and self
👉 What true masculine leadership in marriage looks like

Brandon’s journey proves that no matter how broken a relationship may seem, healing is possible when a man is willing to confront his shortcomings and take responsibility. His story is a powerful testament to the importance of emotional awareness, faith, and intentional action in restoring love and trust.

If this conversation spoke to you, share your thoughts in the comments. Have you faced similar struggles in your relationship? What steps have helped you move forward? Let’s continue the conversation below.

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes!
If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc 

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com 

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast:
--------------------------------------------------
Website:    https://iwishyouknew.show/ 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/ 
Tiktok:        https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow 
Snapchat:  https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod  
Twitter /X:  https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod 
Spotify:      https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI 
Apple:        https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809 

--------------------------------------------------
Follow Adam Lane Smith:
--------------------------------------------------
Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/ 
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg    
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ 
Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith 
Threads:   https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam 
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro 

--------------------------------------------------
Brandon Doerkse:
--------------------------------------------------
IG: https://www.instagram.com/brandontalksmarriage/?hl=en 
Threads: https://www.threads.net/@brandontalksmarriage 

The next episode drops Thursday :)
See you there.

Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast

To Learn More About  @AttachmentAdam  

https://adamlanesmith.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg
https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en