Coaching Coaching - Reflection

Our players don't know what they need until we ask them to reflect on it. And that's the reflective piece. How do i get my players to be reflective about what they want out of their experience? How do i then take what they tell me and shape my feedback and shape what i believe about my play based on that? Because we can have this incongruence of what i believe is a coach, the ideal experience should be what you should want, what you should be about. To stack the deck in order to get to that place of congruence at some point during that season, or during the players four yearsthere, is an ongoing process,. which is why