How to communicate for deeper connection—and greater happiness.

Happiness isn’t just a feeling—it’s something you can actively shape through how you think, connect, and communicate.

Sonja Lyubomirsky, a distinguished professor of psychology at the University of California, Riverside and co-author of How to Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most, defines happiness as two key components: “being happy in your life and being happy with your life.” And while many people separate happiness from meaning or purpose, she explains that “they almost always go together.” Her research shows how the small habits we practice—like gratitude—can have a powerful effect, helping to “neutralize negative emotions” and shift how we see our lives.

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Lyubomirsky and host Matt Abrahams explore the science of wellbeing and the habits that help us feel more fulfilled. From gratitude practices to breaking free from the comparison trap, they share practical strategies for boosting happiness and explain why connection isn’t just about being loved, but truly “feeling loved.”

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Chapters:

(00:00) - Introduction
(04:12) - Defining Happiness
(06:24) - Gratitude in Practice
(07:07) - Acting Extroverted
(09:04) - The Comparison Trap
(11:02) - Reflection vs. Rumination
(11:49) - Best Self Exercise
(13:13) - Building Positive Psychology
(14:38) - Happiness Drives Success
(16:06) - Relationships as a Seesaw
(18:26) - Being Known vs. Impressive
(21:10) - The Final Three Questions
(25:43) - Conclusion

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