Listening vs action: limits of validation

Why do women get frustrated when men try to offer them solutions? In this episode, I argue that relationships suffer when we ignore men's natural strengths and insist they conform to women's communication preferences. Therapeutic culture maintains that listening is the answer. However, that's rarely true. It's important for women to remember he's not your girlfriend. When women let men solve problems, they build appreciation and complementarity instead of invalidation and resentment.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

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