Discerning Our Will vs. God's

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Jesus said to his disciples: “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives; and the one who seeks, finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.” Matthew 7:7–8

Will God grant us whatever we ask for? Though one might conclude this from today’s Gospel, Jesus qualifies His statement by adding, “...how much more will your heavenly Father give good things to those who ask him.” In other words, God always gives “good” things to those who sincerely ask. The key question is: What qualifies as good?

If we desire something—such as a new car—and perceive it as good, will God grant us that wish simply because we ask in faith? Only if God also sees that gift as good for us. He promises to meet our most basic material needs and provide for all our spiritual needs, but He might not see specific requests as beneficial. For instance, what if driving an old car is better for your soul in fostering simplicity or detachment? God may prompt us to forego that desire for a new car in exchange for something better. God always offers us what is truly good, but this good is defined by His perfect wisdom, not by our immediate wants.

What, then, does God perceive as good? Above all, He is the ultimate Good. God is Goodness itself, and there is nothing greater we can ask for than the gift of Himself. If we ask Him to fill our hearts with His grace, uniting Himself with our souls, He will never fail to do so. Moreover, God’s will is perfect in every way. If we seek His will, He will reveal it to us. The door He wants to open is the one that leads us to grace, mercy, and the fulfillment of His will. It will always be opened when we knock on this door with a heart seeking His divine plan.

One of the most common human struggles is to discern the difference between our will and God’s. In our fallen state, we are confused about what is truly good. As a result, when we perceive something as good—such as material success, comfort, or recognition—our desires often become fixated on that false good. Once this attachment forms, letting go and trusting God's will can be challenging.

The remedy is detachment—precisely, detachment from our disordered desires. Our passions and desires can be unruly, leading us to pursue things not aligned with God’s plan. Detachment begins with allowing God’s truth to purify our minds and reorder our desires. As divine wisdom takes root, we begin to desire what God desires and become free from selfish ambitions. This interior transformation enables us to ask, seek, and knock for the things that lead to holiness. 

Reflect today on Jesus’ call to ask, seek, and knock. Do so abundantly—but not for superficial wants or fleeting pleasures. Instead, ask for God Himself and His holy will to be made manifest in your life. Pray that He fills you with His grace, purifies your thoughts, and aligns your desires with His perfect plan. When you do, your Heavenly Father will bestow upon you every good thing beyond anything you could ask for.

God of perfect Goodness, Your ways are infinitely wise and holy. You desire only the true good for Your children. Please purify my mind and heart so I may desire nothing but You and Your will. Free me from selfish attachments and misguided desires, and pour forth Your abundant grace into my life. Jesus, I trust in You.

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