Different Kinds of Mourning

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When Mary came to where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet and said to him, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.” When Jesus saw her weeping and the Jews who had come with her weeping, he became perturbed and deeply troubled, and said, “Where have you laid him?” They said to him, “Sir, come and see.” And Jesus wept. John 11:32–35

Jesus’ humanity shines clearly in today’s Gospel. In the face of Lazarus’ death, Jesus is deeply moved by the grief around Him. The Gospel says He “became deeply distressed and troubled” and eventually “wept.” The Greek word for “deeply distressed,” embrimaomai, suggests a strong emotional disturbance, even indignation or anger. It could be translated as “He snorted in spirit,” indicating an involuntary, visceral response from the depth of His soul. Some commentators suggest Jesus’ anger wasn’t directed at the people weeping but at the reality of death itself, caused by sin. As God, Jesus knew death was never part of the Father’s original plan for humanity. From a divine perspective, He saw death as a consequence of sin. From this point of view, death provoked righteous indignation and deeply troubled His human heart.

As the passage continues, Jesus’ humanity is powerfully portrayed in the shortest verse in the Bible: “And Jesus wept.” Why did He weep? Saint Paul reminds us in Hebrews: “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who has similarly been tested in every way, yet without sin” (Hebrews 4:15). Jesus’ tears show us that the Holy Trinity knows human pain firsthand. The Incarnate Son allowed Himself to experience sorrow, and the Father and the Holy Spirit shared in this sorrow through Him.

It’s important to note that Jesus’ sorrow was different from the weeping of Lazarus’ sisters and the others present. Jesus’ weeping uses the Greek word edakrysen, which means “to shed tears” or “weep silently.” His tears were personal, controlled, intimate, heartfelt, and full of divine compassion. In contrast, the weeping of the others is described by the Greek word klaió, meaning loud wailing, a typical expression of communal and ritualistic mourning at the time. Jesus’ grief was neither ritualistic nor excessive; it was intimate and heartfelt, born from personal sorrow and divine compassion.

We must never forget Jesus’ deep compassion, empathy, and sorrow. His human heart feels the same emotions we do—He grieves when we grieve, shares in our pain, and is moved by the hold sin has on us. After feeling these emotions at Lazarus’ death, Jesus stood outside the tomb and “cried out in a loud voice, ‘Lazarus, come out!’” (John 11:43). We can imagine the passion behind His command. In our lives, when we are tempted in sin or burdened by human weakness, we must hear Jesus calling us to freedom with the same divine authority and human passion. 

Reflect today on Jesus’ humanity and how He perfectly understands everything we experience. His deep empathy for our suffering and His joy when we rise with His grace show us how intimately He knows us. God became one of us in every way, sharing in our human condition—though without sin—so that we might share in His divinity. Ponder His humanity and let His closeness draw you to Him, giving you a share in His divine life. 

Most compassionate Lord, You experienced human nature in its fullness. Though You never sinned, You allowed Yourself to feel the effects of our sin and suffering, filling them with Your divine compassion. Help me to always remember Your humanity, knowing that through it, I come to share in Your divinity. Jesus, I trust in You.

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