In gay culture, “body count” refers to how many people you’ve slept with. And whether it’s high or low, it often feels like a no-win situation. Have a low body count and you risk being seen as repressed, inexperienced, or undesirable. Have a high one and you’re either celebrated… or slut shamed.
In this off-the-cuff conversation, we unpack why gay men are stuck between purity culture and performance culture, and how both distort our relationship to sex, desire, and self-worth.
We explore:
- Why body count became a stand-in for confidence and masculinity
- How sex gets turned into proof of worth instead of a personal choice
- The difference between sexual freedom and sexual pressure
- Why sex positivity isn’t about having more sex, or less sex
What sexual empowerment actually looks like when shame isn’t running the show
This episode isn’t about judging how much sex you’ve had. It’s about reclaiming choice, agency, and a healthier relationship to desire.
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