Advice to Younger Self: Ask for Desires

Dirty talk orgasms, clit injuries, and an open consent policy—Tonya shares how safety, curiosity, and communication shaped her evolving erotic life.

🔥 PARTNERS | Make your world a sexier place—get a discount & support the pod!

ÜBERLUBE: the BEST personal lubricant

LORALS: FDA-cleared latex lingerie | Use the code LOVER for 10% off

FIRMTECH: Performance-enhancing cock rings | Use the code LOVER for 15% off

SHAMELESS CARE: Sex positive healthcare | Use the code LOVER for $15 off

MOTORBUNNY: Sex machines & riding toys

ENJOX TOYS: Enjoy smart sex for everyone

SDC: A place for swingers to connect

📈 STATS | 41 bisexual Black woman, she/her pronouns, newly married, relationship consultant & coach, certified credit union financial counselor and educator, from Michigan, into: unexpected dirty talk, being called selfish, sensation play, bondage, power play.

⏰ TIME CODE

00:00 Growing up Black and queer in a small white Christian town and early experiences with sexual shame

04:36 Rating her sexual shame today and how culture shaped her early beliefs about sex

09:41 Early curiosity about bodies, desire, and learning about sex in a restrictive environment

15:02 Relationship safety, trust, and how partnership allows deeper exploration

20:18 Expanding intimacy through communication and learning to talk openly about desire

25:07 Sleep play, open consent agreements, and navigating ravishment fantasies safely

30:12 Sensation play, bondage, and exploring power dynamics with trust

35:44 Discovering what kinds of touch feel good and learning her body’s responses

41:03 Porn, fantasy, and differences between male-centered narratives and her own pleasure

46:11 Talking about fantasies with partners and building erotic connection through conversation

51:32 The role of imagination, storytelling, and verbal stimulation in arousal

56:20 Dirty talk as a powerful erotic tool and how words heighten excitement

1:01:18 The story of experiencing eight orgasms through verbal stimulation alone

1:06:07 Navigating vulnerability, bodies, and a memorable clit injury story

1:12:04 Power play, emotional safety, and continuing to explore together in marriage

1:18:26 What she’s still curious about sexually and how exploration keeps evolving

1:24:37 Trust, pleasure, and creating space for honest sexual conversations

1:31:10 Lessons about communication, boundaries, and growing through intimacy

1:37:22 Reflections on curiosity, safety, and embracing a continually evolving sex life

🌙 ABOUT LUNA | lunarobbie.com / linktr.ee/lunarobbie

✨ PATREON | Luna’s exclusive updates, stories & the ad-free feed: patreon.com/lunarobbie

💸 PLAY | Tickle Luna’s moneykink: 🪭onlyfans.com/lunarobbie 🐈‍⬛sextpanther.com/lunarsecrets

🎙️ BE A GUEST, SHARE A STORY, ASK A QUESTION | Leave a voice memo at sexstoriespodcast.com

🙌 SHARE SEX STORIES

🌈 Explore (y)our curiosity.

🤑 Offer irresistible invitations.

💦 Spread ripples of love.

🤩 TOPICS | Adult relationship growth, arousal through language, bisexual identity in adulthood, Black woman sexual identity, body awareness and pleasure discovery, Christian upbringing and sexual messaging, clitoral injury story, communication about erotic desires, consent negotiation in intimate relationships, culturally mixed communities and dating, discovering queer attraction later in life, erotic storytelling between partners, fantasy discussion with partners, female arousal patterns, female orgasm experiences, female pleasure narratives, first exposure to sexual information, intimacy coaching perspective, kink curiosity in long-term relationships, learning sexual communication skills, married couple erotic exploration, Michigan relationship coach perspective, navigating racialized desirability, orgasm through verbal stimulation, partner trust in intimate play, pleasure education through lived experience, pleasure mapping and body sensitivity, pornography and personal fantasy influences, power exchange curiosity, ravishment fantasy agreements, relationship counseling insights about intimacy, relationship trust and vulnerability, sensation-based erotic play, sexual curiosity in conservative communities, sexual identity development in adulthood, sexual learning outside formal education, sexual shame from religious environments, talking openly about fantasies, verbal arousal techniques, verbal intimacy in partnered sex

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.