Lack of Safety Container from Childhood

What if “I deserve a drink” is just an old script you can rewrite? In today’s episode, Coach Cole helps Matt notice how removing alcohol lowered his baseline stress at a new job—turning frantic mornings into steady ones and replacing dread with data. Coach Zoe supports Constance, a second-grade teacher whose activated nervous system kept her in fight-or-flight; together they connect the dots from childhood patterns to present-day overwhelm and practice coming back to the body for safety. You’ll hear the role of community, self-trust, and daily practices to stay alcohol-free—from 6 a.m. calls to simple breathwork—to make change sustainable. Powerful, shame-free coaching like this happens every day inside The Path, where small experiments add up to big shifts—at work, at home, and in who you believe you can be.

In Matt’s Session:

Managing work-related stress and anxiety without resorting to self-medication

Alcohol-free benefits: showing up clearheaded and reducing work stress

Building self-trust by seeing the evidence of a better life

Overcoming the "I deserve a drink" mentality after a stressful day

Differences between AA and The Path

Recognizing the ingrained, Pavlovian nature of drinking urges and how to decondition them

Daily practices to stay alcohol-free and more

In Constance’s Session:

Coping with a constantly activated nervous system

Using alcohol as a "safety valve" to "emotionally shut down" and stop playing a role

Connecting current emotional regulation issues to childhood experiences

Moving from external focus (saving others) to internal focus (regulating her own body)

Learning tools for nervous system regulation and grounding

Understanding the importance of finding a "safety container" within herself to process emotions

The value of incorporating daily practices to stay alcohol-free and more

Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. For years, he felt lost and used alcohol as a way to cope, until he decided to go alcohol-free and focus on finding his purpose. Through curiosity, self-compassion, and adventure, he transformed his life. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps young men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning.

Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

Zoe Ewart is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who brings her experience and understanding to help with the tricky parts of life’s big changes. Her coaching gives you an enjoyable, light-hearted, and safe environment to effortlessly take back control of alcohol so you can feel better physically, mentally, and spiritually. Zoe taught Pilates for 15 years. She has four adult children and more animals than the Ark ever had.

Learn more about Coach Zoe: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/zoe-ewart/

Episode links:

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Related Episodes:

Escaping The Hamster Wheel of Drinking – Alcohol Freedom Coaching – E847 – https://thisnakedmind.com/why-cant-i-quit-drinking-after-so-many-tries-afc-e847/

Will I ever stop craving alcohol? – Reader Questions – E676 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-676-readers-question-will-i-ever-stop-craving-alcohol/

Trusting Yourself Again – Alcohol Freedom Coaching – E760 – https://thisnakedmind.com/trusting-yourself-again-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e760/

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