The arrival fallacy and process focus

Sahil Bloom is an entrepreneur and investor, and the author of the New York Times bestselling book The 5 Types of Wealth.

Most of us chase success that doesn’t reflect what we truly value. In this episode, Sahil and I explore how to close that gap and live more intentionally—starting with the bold decision he made to move his family for more time with loved ones.

We unpack the difference between what you want and what you wish you wanted, dive into the five types of wealth, and end with six practical lessons to help you build a life that actually aligns with your values.

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Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro

(03:33) Why Sahil relocated to live near his parents 

(08:58) The five types of wealth 

(10:51) Why it never hurts to reach out

(13:07) When your actions don’t match your values 

(16:15) The case for auditing how your values and actions align

(20:14) Why achievement alone doesn’t bring happiness 

(24:02) What a successful life actually is  

(30:40) Why struggle is necessary for true satisfaction

(37:01) Suffering as proof of living 

(40:53) Sahil’s mistakes 

(45:30) 6 lessons to build the life you want

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Referenced:

• The Meaning of Your Life: Finding Purpose in an Age of Emptiness: themeaningofyourlife.com

• Meaning Membership: https://hub.arthurbrooks.com/the-meaning-membership 

• The Happiness Scale: https://learn.arthurbrooks.com/the-happiness-scale 

• The Pursuit of Happiness with Arthur Brooks: https://www.thefp.com/s/the-pursuit-of-happiness-with-arthur 

• The 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design Your Dream Life: https://www.amazon.com/Types-Wealth-Transformative-Guide-Design/dp/059372318X

• ...References continued at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.arthurbrooks.com/office-hours⁠⁠

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