The Importance of Being Feminine

I've shied away from the trans widow discussion because marriage is so messy. We're talking about a third person. My impression, because I've never got a solid answer for that from him, is that it was very important for him to not just be feminine. And he's a narcissist and narcissist do,. That's my assertion that he is a narcissist. So there was an element of wanting to control things, to control me, to never stop having some kind of effect on me.