The Three Languages framework

(This is Part 2 of a conversation with Dr. Matthew Jones about co-founder relationships. You can find Part 1 here: https://www.tsp.show/how-to-identify-red-flags-early-in-your-cofounder-relationship-w-dr-matthew-jones/)

Co-founder conflict is tough to deal with, but it also has ripple effects through your entire organization. When a tough relationship is left to fester, it can erode your team culture, spike turnover, and eventually turn into a full-blown crisis.

Continuing last week's conversation with Yaniv, Dr. Matthew Jones - author of The Cofounder Effect and founder of Cofounder Clarity - walks you through actionable ways to repair a flailing co-founder relationship.

From identifying and avoiding common mistakes, to finding good coaching, Dr. Jones brings valuable insights that will ensure you and your founding team thrive together.

In this episode, you will:

• Understand how co-founder dysfunction ripples through your organization, driving up employee churn and instability.

• Learn why most companies are in dire need of a 'co-founder date'.

• Discover why avoiding relationship repair makes the problem more difficult to deal with over time.

• Explore the Three Languages Framework, and how to use it to diagnose where your co-founder communication is breaking down.

• Learn why working on the 1–2% of bandwidth that goes to your co-founder relationship is actually the highest-ROI investment you can make as a founding team.

Chapters00:00 Coming Up...00:41 On Today's Show: Co-founder Relationships, Part 201:17 Ripple Effects on Company Culture04:15 Stats on Employee Stress And Churn05:28 Co-founder Syncs and Co-founder Dates09:33 Using 'The Cofounder Effect' to Navigate Conflict10:30 Enduring Discomfort12:28 Co-founder Coaching: 'Couples Therapy For Founders'?16:18 Why Self-Work Is 'High Leverage'17:44 Today's Action: Use The Three Languages Framework19:48 'Nonviolent Communication' and Naming The Elephant In The Room22:20 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Part 1 of this conversation, 'How to identify red flags early in your co-founder relationship': https://www.tsp.show/how-to-identify-red-flags-early-in-your-cofounder-relationship-w-dr-matthew-jones/

• Dr. Matthew Jones' website, Cofounder Clarity (further information on his coaching practice and his book, The Cofounder Effect): https://www.cofounderclarity.com

• Startup Snapshot: https://www.startupsnaphot.com

• Nonviolent Communication (NVC): https://www.cnvc.org

• Dr. Matthew Jones on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-matthew-jones-7a832a37/

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