Success Tests Ego More Than Failure

What if everything you’ve been told about success is missing one key ingredient, how deeply you care? 

Jay sits down with David Grutman, one of the most influential names in global hospitality, who built a world-renowned empire from the ground up. Together they unpack a powerful idea that challenges conventional wisdom: what if the real secret to success isn’t detachment, but deeply caring? From his early days as a bartender to creating iconic experiences that shape culture, David reveals how taking things personally, your work, your relationships, and every detail of what you put into the world, can become a driving force for growth. While most people are taught to brush things off, David chose the opposite, turning mistakes, rejection, and feedback into fuel to sharpen his craft and raise his standards.

Jay highlights how David’s success wasn’t built on titles or transactions, but on genuine human connection. From remembering a guest’s drink to building long-term relationships with artists and entrepreneurs, David reveals that real influence comes from adding value without expectation. Jay reflects on how many people chase quick wins or surface-level networking, but true impact lies in playing the long game, showing up consistently, investing in others, and creating meaningful experiences that people never forget.

In this episode you'll learn:

How to Turn Mistakes Into Growth

How to Build Relationships That Last

How to Make People Feel Seen and Valued

How to Build Confidence Without a Title

How to Give Feedback That Actually Works

How to Stay Grounded While Winning

Every setback carries a lesson, and every interaction is an opportunity to build something meaningful. When you focus on adding value, staying curious, and giving your best, you begin to create momentum that others can feel.

If you’re ready to level up how you show up in life and relationships, don’t miss David Grutman’s latest book, Take It Personal. Pre-order your copy today, visit: https://zandoprojects.com/books/take-it-personal-hardcover 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:11 Why You Should Take It Personal

05:26 The Small Details That Make People Feel Seen

07:48 The Real Path to Self-Improvement

08:47 Turning Anger Into Growth

09:55 How to Give Feedback That Actually Works

11:22 Creating a 10/10 Customer Experience

12:41 Every Day Is a New Opportunity

14:20 Always Bet on Yourself

16:14 Building Something From Nothing

18:06 The Power of Genuine Relationships

21:33 Does Networking Actually Work?

24:09 How to Play the Long Game 

28:31 The Truth About Real Success

31:10 Lessons From a Difficult Childhood

32:36 Becoming the Parent You Needed

33:57 Balancing Ambition and Family Life

35:12 Evolving Into Your Next Chapter

38:01 The Power of Being a Connector

39:35 Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset

41:27 Check Your Ego at the Door 

43:36 Staying Grounded While Winning

45:38 The Strength of a True Partnership

48:23 What Makes a Truly Great Idea?

50:19 What Makes Someone Worth Betting On?

51:40 Learning to Slow Down and Reflect

52:52 Finding Joy in the Present Moment

54:17 The One Rule to Live By: Just Be Good

56:14 David in Final Five 

Episode Resources:

Website | https://groothospitality.com/ 

Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/davegrutman/ 

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/davidgrutman/ 

X | https://x.com/DaveGrutman 

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