Saying No with Conviction to Avoid Guilt

What does transformational leadership actually look like in practice? Father Mike Schmitz, 15-year director of the Newman Center at UMD, sits down with coaches to share the leadership principles, culture-building strategies, and mentorship frameworks that have transformed thousands of lives on a secular college campus.

Whether you're a coach, team leader, manager, or anyone invested in building high-performance culture, this conversation is packed with actionable wisdom on setting priorities, establishing boundaries, leading with authenticity, and developing the next generation of leaders.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• How to identify your one true priority (and stop pretending you have many)The "rock analogy" for protecting your closest relationships during demanding seasons
• Why saying NO with conviction is an act of leadership — not selfishness
• The 3 pillars Father Mike used to build a transformational culture from scratch
• The FACT (and FACE) framework for identifying and developing emerging leaders
• Small group leadership: how to structure teams within teams
• How to lead authentically in a secular environment without compromising your values
• Why Gen Z craves in-person connection more than any generation before them
• The concept of "spiritual fatherhood" and what it means for coaches and mentors

⏱️ CHAPTERS:

00:00 — Introduction: Coaching through busy seasons of life

02:45 — The Rock Analogy: Protecting your family during demanding seasons

06:30 — Defining your TRUE priority (it's singular, not plural)

10:15 — How to say NO without guilt — and why conviction sets you free

15:40 — Knowing your limits: the wisdom of boundaries in leadership

19:00 — Building a transformational culture from scratch (the 3 pillars)

25:10 — Seen, Known, and Loved: the culture framework that changed everything

29:30 — Bottom-up leadership: creating a culture where people correct you

33:00 — Small group leadership: the FACT framework for identifying leaders

39:20 — The Jenna story: how one person's faithfulness sparked a movement

44:45 — Leading Gen Z: why in-person connection is the ultimate differentiator

49:10 — How to create psychological safety so people speak freely

53:00 — Spiritual fatherhood: reframing your role as a coach or mentor

58:30 — Leading with faith in a secular environment

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS:

📖 The Bible in a Year with Father Mike Schmitz: https://www.youtube.com/@UCzUZD3iCxkHmwYkCqYn8fBw

🏛️ UMD Newman Center: https://bulldogcatholic.org/

📚 Stephen Covey's "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" (mentioned): https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Powerful/dp/0743269519

🎓 FOCUS (Fellowship of Catholic University Students): https://focus.org/

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