
288: The V Word - The Psychology of Saying “Vegan”
Vedge Your Best, Vegan Ideas for Everyone At Any Age
Overthinking vs. Action
Michele reflects on wasted time overthinking and urges experimentation instead of perfection.
Does saying “I’m vegan” feel uncomfortable? Does “plant based” feel empty?
This episode breaks down why that reaction is so common—and how a few behavioral science concepts can help you stay regulated in social situations, and keep moving forward without needing to be “audit-ready.”In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why “vegan” can feel like an identity label with social consequences (not just a food preference)
The Spotlight Effect: why your brain overestimates how much other people notice you
Do-gooder derogation: why ethically motivated choices can trigger defensiveness in others (even when you’re being calm and low-key)
Why “plant-based” can feel easier to say—and what you gain/lose with each term
The 3 conditions that help change actually stick (from Self-Determination Theory):
Autonomy: it feels like your choice
Competence: you feel capable
Relatedness: you feel connected, not isolated
Simple “in-the-wild” scripts to use when the V word gets caught in your throat
Why consistency beats purity, especially in the early awkward phase
Listener practice for the week:
Try one “label-light” sentence one time, in the wild:
“I don’t eat animal products.”
“I’m vegan—no stress, I’ll find something.”
“I’m trying to eat vegan.”
“I’m keeping it plant-based today.”
You’re not doing this for other people’s comfort. You’re doing it to keep yourself regulated while you learn, experiment, and build a practice that lasts.
Key takeaway:
That awkward, self-conscious feeling isn’t proof you’re doing it wrong. It’s a normal human response to belonging and identity—and it gets easier with practice.
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