Habit changes: quitting X and learning restraint

📬 Subscribe to the Team Culture Toolbox Newsletter: https://tocculture.com/culture-toolboxWhat does it actually take to lead at a high level without sacrificing everything else that matters?In Part 2 of our conversation with Brad Stulberg — performance coach, author, and co-founder of The Growth Equation — we dig into the real framework behind sustainable leadership excellence. If you're a coach, athletic director, team leader, or anyone trying to perform at a high level without burning out, this episode is for you.Brad just released his new book The Way of Excellence and this conversation is full of the mindset shifts, leadership strategies, and practical tools that separate truly great leaders from those who simply grind themselves (and their teams) into the ground.🔑 What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why balance is a myth — and the more powerful concept you should focus on instead (trade-offs)The difference between acute love and aspirational love — a reframe that will change how you lead AND parentHow Greg Popovich and the San Antonio Spurs used intentional presence to build championship cultureWhy discipline and self-compassion must coexist — and how to know which one to lean intoThe problem with trying to copy other people's habits without understanding their contextHow coaches are unintentionally making athletes more fragile — and what to do insteadWhy the path to mastery matters as much as reaching the topThe concept of minimum effective doses — a game-changing framework for high-performers with competing demands📚 Resources & Links:📖 Brad Stulberg's Book — The Way of Excellence: https://www.bradstulberg.com📱 Follow Brad on Instagram: @BradStulberg📝 Betsy Buttrick's Website & Book (Kids These Days): https://betsybuttrick.com🎙️ Part 1 of This Conversation with Brad Stulberg: https://youtu.be/RoKt_fYssJ8?si=IMve1XNEPJByTlYV📬 Subscribe to the Team Culture Toolbox Newsletter: https://tocculture.com/culture-toolbox🔖 CHAPTERS / TIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Teaser: Why "pain is the point" is BS0:11 – Introduction & what to expect in Part 22:30 – What Brad's 3-year-old daughter taught him about presence3:33 – Kids hold you accountable: the "give me your full attention" moment4:32 – Presence during a book launch vs. the creative process6:17 – How coaches can give themselves grace around family presence7:05 – Acute love vs. aspirational love: a reframe for coaching parents9:20 – Greg Popovich & the Spurs: using team dinners to build culture10:21 – Why intentional moments of completion matter for team performance12:29 – Intensity and joy: why they must coexist for sustainable excellence13:52 – The TOC Coach Community (free + premium)14:30 – Why "balance" is a myth & the power of thinking in trade-offs16:51 – Minimum effective doses: how to stay whole while going all-in23:00 – Andre Agassi, Steph Curry & Tiger Woods: different paths to the top26:05 – Restraint as a habit: what Brad is still unlearning as an athlete27:00 – The #1 limiting belief that gets in the way of excellence30:24 – Ultra marathons, Yamamoto & trusting the human experience over analytics30:45 – Reckless vs. fragile: finding the performance sweet spot32:16 – JP's key takeaways + why Brad's book is a must-read for leaders33:00 – Wrap-up & how to find Brad Stulberg's work🏆 About the Coaching Culture Podcast:The Coaching Culture Podcast is hosted by JP Nerbun and Betsy Buttrick. Our mission is simple: help you become a better leader, better coach, and build a better team culture. Every episode features world-class coaches, athletes, performance experts, and thought leaders sharing practical wisdom you can apply immediately.🔔 Subscribe so you never miss an episode.⭐ Leave us a 5-star review — it helps more coaches and leaders find this content.📤 Share this episode with a coach or leader in your life who needs to hear it.#CoachingCulture #LeadershipDevelopment #HighPerformance #TeamCulture #BradStulberg