How to accept loss without liking it

Two cataclysmic events have shaped Dr Lucy Hone’s relationship with grief, and resilience.

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Today in the Academy of Imperfection, we welcome Dr Lucy Hone. Dr Lucy’s work focuses on making sense of the senseless, and helping others to do the same.

As a legitimate expert in grief, resilience and wellbeing, Dr Lucy is able to blend the science with her own lived experience.

This episode explores living losses (divorce, estrangement, infertility), grief comparison, as well as the research around post-traumatic growth. Guided by questions from Dr Lucy’s latest book, How will I ever get through this?, Hugh, Josh and Ryan ask Dr Lucy why grief feels so lonely, how you are supposed to accept loss, and will you ever be happy again, amongst others.

This is a special one.

0:00 – An Unsuspecting Saturday Morning
12:11 – Grief comparison
21:25 – How am I supposed to accept this?
31:14 – How do you keep hope alive?
35:48 – Why do I feel so lonely?
50:20 – Will I ever be happy again?
56:36 – Letting the other children live
1:03:44 – Do you know your strengths?
1:09:12 – Who and what do you want to live for?
1:14:59 – Who and what is good in your world?

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🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Dr Emily - Grief Lightening - https://bit.ly/3ZPVNmO
• Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://bit.ly/3Oku8b4
• Dr Emily - Goals For Your Goals - https://bit.ly/4rAK3AF

📖 Things to read

• How Will I Ever Get Through This by Dr Lucy Hone - https://bit.ly/4bAWO9w
• Resilient Grieving by Dr Lucy Hone - https://bit.ly/4kpkf8g
• Oscillation Grief Theory - https://bit.ly/4qZ5WK1
• Michael F. Steger - Meaning and Purpose Work - https://michaelfsteger.com
• J. William Worden - Four Tasks of Mourning - https://bit.ly/3NTGPcU

💻Things to check out

• Dr Lucy’s website - https://www.drlucyhone.com
• 3 Secrets of Resilient People TedTalk - https://bit.ly/3Zguj9S
• Dr Lucy’s ‘Look Forward To’ Calendar
• VIA Strengths test - http://bit.ly/4h2KYFJ
• Coping With Loss community on Facebook - https://bit.ly/3NTnDvT
• Welcome to Holland poem - https://bit.ly/4kgB0lH
• Will Arnett + Conan O’Brien on Grief - https://bit.ly/4a06320

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