When Vulnerability Triggers Recoil

If you keep getting the ick with every person you date, the problem might not actually be them. In this episode, Sabrina unpacks shadow work and the ick, breaking down how the parts of yourself you rejected long ago are running your dating life, your relationships, and the triggers that send you spiraling over something small. This is why you keep walking away from available, kind, emotionally present people and calling it intuition.

Sabrina lays out the difference between shadow work, inner child work, attachment styles, and nervous system regulation, and why the healing work most people are doing only takes them so far. With neuroscience on projection, the amygdala, and unconscious self-perception, plus practical tools to track the charge underneath your reactions, this episode is for anyone ready to stop self-sabotaging in dating and finally build a secure, emotionally available relationship.

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Chapters:

00:00 Why You Get The Ick With Everyone

03:30 Inner Child Work vs Shadow Work

07:08 What Shadow Work Really Means

09:28 Parts You Reject In Yourself

12:29 The Ick Decoded In Dating

15:42 Masculine Feminine Polarity Myth

18:37 Triggers In Your Relationship

22:32 Projection In Love (Yale Study)

26:14 Neuroscience Of The Shadow

29:38 How To Do Shadow Work Daily

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