Do You Really Want to Think Negatively About Someone That Has Passed Away?

The idea of conjuring up negative feelings towards an ex partner feels tricky to mer or oddly controversial. Maybe if im, if some one passed away, and we can more realistically look at them, maybe that can help us cope with them passing. What i think would not be helpful, although i haven't tested this yet, is like what i call a ex bashing. That's a very generic, also very strong a statement. And so i feel like if you'r, if you go that route, that may not be helpful because then also, youknow that if your ex partner was such a terrible person, whyee get them to begin with? Was tat? What does that