Most of us think relationship problems are about communication.
But what if the real issue is what’s happening beneath the surface?
In this episode of The Nona Jones Show, I’m joined by Dr. Gino Collura; behavioral scientist, executive advisor, and neuroanthropology expert, to unpack the hidden language of trauma and why it shows up in how we relate, react, attach, and interpret people.
Trauma doesn’t always show up as a memory.
More often, it shows up as overreaction, withdrawal, control, or shutdown, and we don’t even realize we’re doing it.
We talk about:
How early experiences shape the “cost of love” we believe in
Why so many high-achievers chase success as a proxy for love
The patterns trauma produces (people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, emotional withdrawal)
Boundaries, self-respect, and why loving people doesn’t mean protecting everyone
Why healing is possible: the brain can rewire and the heart can heal
This conversation is faith-forward, emotionally honest, and deeply practical, especially if you’re a high-capacity woman who leads well outwardly but feels tired, reactive, or stuck internally.
