Orgasms aren't the only goal

You're in love. You're committed. So why does sex feel like it dropped off the priority list somewhere between laundry and meal prep? You're not broken — you're just busy, stressed, and maybe a little stuck in your head. In this live show, Dr. Emily answers your unfiltered questions about what happens when desire fades, how to talk to a partner who clams up about what they want, and why the "how often should we be having sex?" question is missing the point entirely.

This episode was recorded live across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — part of a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I've learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You'll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being live together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good — without shame or judgment. Tune in most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily.

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In this episode, you'll learn: 

• Why "how often should we have sex?" is the wrong question — and what to ask instead 

• The three pleasure thieves silently wrecking your libido 

• How to help a shy partner open up about their desires (without making it awkward)

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

3:04 - How often should couples have sex?

5:57 - Getting your partner to communicate about sex

8:39 - Do most couples talk about sex?

10:57 - Why your sex life shouldn't stay the same for decades

15:34 - Navigating intimacy with chronic illness

18:44 - Myth: Good sex should be spontaneous

21:06 - Myth: Orgasms are the ultimate goal

23:16 - Sex during pregnancy when your partner pulls back

26:57 - Dealing with early ejaculation

30:28 - Helping a stressed partner get in the mood

33:56 - Top sex toy recommendations

34:28 - Myth: Lube is only for older women

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