What's the Real Challenge for You?

The advice monster comes up when someone says something's going on in their life. So your best bet is to stay a little curious as to what's really going on. Ask them, so how can I help? Instead of curiosity, what do you want from me here? In the book we call this the lazy question. And it actually allows that person to ask you for what they want rather than hint at it. You're both being incredibly supportive and useful to them.