Why You Feel Stuck in Life | Simone Stolzoff
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LLMs and relationship advice feedback loops
Simone discusses how training on Reddit can push LLMs toward negative relationship advice and reinforce certainty-seeking.
Most people think uncertainty is the problem. It’s not.
AJ sits down with journalist and author Simone Stolzoff to unpack why our obsession with certainty may actually be making us more anxious, avoidant, and stuck. From AI and career anxiety to relationships, decision-making, and control, Simone explains why experts are terrible at predicting the future — and why learning to tolerate uncertainty is one of the most important modern skills.
This episode explores the three traps people fall into when facing uncertainty: comfort, control, and hubris — and how taking action, instead of endlessly consuming information, is what actually creates clarity.
Chapters
00:00 – Why we’re addicted to certainty
08:00 – Experts predict the future like dart-throwing chimps
16:00 – The comfort trap and avoiding uncertainty
24:00 – Why overthinking becomes emotional safety
32:00 – Control, anxiety, and the illusion of certainty
40:00 – Identity, values, and making hard decisions
48:00 – Curiosity, future self-trust, and taking action
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Episode resources:
https://www.amazon.com/How-Not-Know-Uncertainty-Demands/dp/1324089458
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