Non Dualism - Is This What You Said?

The style debate in ancient india was that if we are going to have a debate, before i reply, i must restate to you what you said to your satisfaction. Adwit avedant, he attacks non dualism in his masterpiece, shribhashem. Most of the time when weare wee arguing, it goes into quarrels, because i'm not really listening to what youare saying. I'm thinking of my reply, not like this reply is going to blow you away. So we just listen to our point of view and then keep giving replies without listening to the other person. Nowti, its, it's like the all it an echo chamber.