Avoiding being pulled into the addict's drama

Dr. Skip Speer and Tami answer participant questions about missing a partner who has betrayed you, strategies for opening up in honest and helpful ways, timelines for dedicating time to recovery resources, and appropriate dialogue to have with family and friends during recovery.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:04] What is my role in holding the pain of my betraying partner?

[6:50] Seeking Integrity resources that are available to navigate unhealthy relationships.

[7:58] What treatment options are available to a narcissistic sex addict betrayer?

[13:24] How and when should we approach discussing our situation with family and friends?

[17:10] How can I open up as the betrayer and address the tough topics with my partner?

[23:37] Do I need to discuss being a 12-Step sponsor with my spouse?

[27:20] Is it normal to miss my betraying spouse?

[30:51] How can we navigate my partner's addictions with our children?

[36:15] Which support groups offer accountability instead of enablement.

[43:29] Can betrayed partners have traits of love addiction?

[44:31] How can I avoid getting pulled in to my sex addict partner's lies?

[50:02] How do I know when it's time to adjust the amount of time we spend on recovery resources?

[54:14] How can I possibly initiate sex after the years of my partner's betrayal?

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES

• "If a person is willing to engage in therapy and get in and do the work, there is hope."

• "The more you focus on healing for you, the faster you will heal."

• "Things may be bad, but they will get so much worse if you keep holding onto it."

• "No addict changes unless the pain of changing is less than the pain of staying the same."