What happens when the version of you that earned love was never the real you to begin with? This episode is a deep dive into the grief, rage, and liberation that comes from unlearning the worthlessness you were taught to feel.
Nate Postlethwait is a trauma educator, writer, and creator of The Other Side of Saved. He grew up in the deep South, survived years of childhood sexual abuse, entered conversion therapy at 18, and spent over a decade trying to pray and perform his pain away. At 30, a full-blown nervous system collapse forced him to finally face the trauma he spent years outrunning—and start the long, messy work of coming home to himself.
▪️The Weight of Repressed Identity: What happens when your true self gets buried to survive—and how reclaiming it often begins with grief, rage, and radical honesty.
▪️Religious Trauma & Spiritual Bypassing: How faith can become a weapon against authenticity—and why real healing means confronting the harm done in the name of God.
▪️The Cost of Performance & Perfectionism: Why many survivors become high achievers—and how nervous system healing allows you to stop performing and start belonging.
▪️Nervous System Collapse & Somatic Recovery: What happens when trauma catches up with the body—and how Nate rebuilt safety through EMDR, breathwork, and inner child work.
▪️Healing in Community: How real transformation begins in safe, shame-free spaces—where your story doesn’t have to be edited to be accepted.
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